the right to be safe
not the right to feel safe
Emotional safety is your own responsibility
maybe it can be done by law but I’m not optimistic on that
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A cheeseburger without the cheese is still a hamburger without the ham
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when kids are so excited they can’t keep their arms under control
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Timeless wisdoms
People say dumb things with a lot of confidence. Ten years later they realize how dumb they were.
I can say with confidence that many of the things I say with confidence today will sound dumb in 10 years
^ Will saying that be dumb? Probably not! That means it’s a good one
At least the change from confidently saying things to them becoming dumb is growth in wisdom
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me llamo es
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There’s something about the water
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Memes don’t care about your facts bro
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The “shit test”
Girls seem to suck at picking guys. Feminine girls especially, because feminine is emotional. This is what I’d expect. On top of that, they just won’t have the experience to know what a good, quality guy is. If he drives a nice car, maybe he’s using somebody else’s money or just renting it for a day.
Historically, brothers and fathers were the gatekeepers. Who better to assess the quality of a man than another man!? And there were norms: practice abstinence, stay at home as much as possible, don’t go out alone, commit to a life together. These were norms to help minimize the chance of a girl losing her femininity.
Anyway, as they continue to get fucked over, they start to build their own filters for next time. But instead of observing accomplishments and proof-of-success like:
- Does he have a job? What kind? What does that profession typically earn?
- Where does he live? With who?
- Is he good at anything? What?
They seem to have created what’s known as the “shit test.” They’re well known to be unconscious behaviors..women aren’t even aware that they are shit testing. I want to understand why women shit test, or think about how common shit tests came to be. Do women learn it from each other, or do they come up with the exact same shit tests independently?
My best guess is they come up with shits tests mostly independently, anytime a guy shows emotion at them. For example, she was late to dinner with an legitimate excuse and he flipped instead of being understanding that one time. She didn’t like the way she felt, so the next guy she dates, she wants to see his reaction to her being late as early as possible.
- You can’t really blame women for shit testing. They have to do something.
- These shit tests should be repelling guys. Because they make a guy feel like shit.
- Is she really just screaming “stay the fuck away from me I’m hurt”
- Shit test = emotional filter. Observe emotions and responses rather than accomplishments or skill.
- A good approach or mindset is to turn shit tests into sarcasm or humor. View it as trolling/teasing and dish it right back.
- Even if she’s demonstrating insecurity, don’t validate. Instead deflect. “You sleep with a lot of girls don’t you?” “Yeah like non stop I barely get any work done”
- Indirectly, maybe these common shit tests can expose useful info
- Does he spend money carelessly? What is he willing to spend on and how much would he spend with limited info?
- Does he get distracted easily? By me
- Does he get frustrated easily? How does he handle it?
When it becomes disrespectful, be clear about boundaries and consequences.
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Red light therapy for axial length reduction
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10011348/
Our research highlights RLRL as a promising and novel therapy that can shorten myopic AL in more than 25% of eyes by 0.142 ± 0.095 mm/year.
Need to look into the device used. My theory and hope is they were getting myopic peripheral defocus. Also need to look at the study that shows peripheral hyperopia is the strongest correlation to axial length increases, because that had some references to cons/rods and what type of light is most impactful.
Their website (https://www.eyerisinginternational.com/the-device/, just choose new zealand or UK) says the red light is targeted on the retina. See also their blog post: https://www.opticianonline.net/content/features/myopia-repeated-low-level-red-light-therapy
I also wonder – there’s WTR (with the rule) astigmatism. Could that have anything to do with the fact that most lens wear is wider than tall? Or maybe it’s just Elliot Forrest’s ideas about posture
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Idea:
If it is really the case that axial length is most responsive to peripheral stimuli, then wear diffs outside with the center blacked out. The diffs should be weak enough that there is defocus at the peripheral area.
Maybe that just makes active focus easier, because you won’t be trying to focus consciously anymore.
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East asia actually has made some progress towards solving the myopia problem.
Miyosmart – research seems to only indicate slower progression. Seems like they their test subjects didn’t have consistent usage, and they didn’t have a standard around how much myopia defocus to create peripherally.
Kubota Glass – operates the same way as miyosmart but with AR. Focuses on lens induced myopia, specifically the peripheral hyperopia.
There was a quote in the Kubota paper about peripheral hyoperia, which makes me think to reduce lens-induced myopia, one should wear lenses that limit the amount of peripheral hyoperia. EndMyopia method of course uses reduced prescriptions, but on top of that maybe it makes sense to wear smaller lenses.
My guess would be it doesn’t make that much of a difference. Then again going from a 35mm lens to a 30mm lens would be roughly 25% less corrected light.
It has been shown that peripheral hyperopic defocus on the retina is the chief driver of axial elongation of the eye11,12,13,
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-022-15456-4#author-informationOther notes for today:
- For differentials, do not use high index lenses. They introduced way too much chromatic aberation. Hi-index plastic (zenni 1.67) has Abbe of 32 vs Plastic CR-39 (zenni 1.5) has Abbe of 58, higher is better. In this case, 1.5 is significantly better. I noticed this when looking at the youtube favicon or iOS notification count badges, where in different parts of the lens, the center part of the icon would move around in the red. Very annoying actually
- Cooper vision (COO) owns a lot of the myopia reversal & progression reduction tech like MiSight contacts. I sold off a while back but it might be worth rebuying. At least until I put them out of business
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